You love each other. You need each other. You know every little thing about each other. So why are there so many miscommunications in relationships about personal finance? Not surprisingly, fights about money remain a top cause of break ups amongst U.S. couples.
Even if you think you know your partner by heart, there can still be misunderstandings when it comes to money. One of you spends too much, or hates to budget while the other freaks out over every line item in the budget. How can two people be so compatible in every way, except money?
You’ve shared so many stories about your lives. But you’ve never shared your money story.
We’ve created a list of 20 essential money questions that we believe that every committed couple needs to ask each other in order to get on the same page about their financial future (and stay there).
Tackling our money pasts
With money, the past does predict the future. These questions will help you build empathy for each other and identify experiences that impacted your outlook on money.
Understanding our money today
These questions are all the present, the here and now. The aim here is to start to understand how you’re thinking about your budgets, your goals, and your fears about what’s going to happen on the day-to-day and tomorrow.
Our money future
There’s no such thing as a crystal ball. And while we can’t predict the future, we can do our best to financially plan for it as a team. These questions will determine how much you know about how the other thinks about planning for the years ahead, through sickness, health, and in wealth.
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