Congratulations, you just got married! You’re done with the cake testing, the napkin colors, and the seating chart. Let’s be honest, you might even feel like you shed a second job. Now that you’ve made it to the other side, you’re kicking off a completely new journey that is less about you and more about "you two."
As your lives return to normal, you’ll want to make a few adjustments to your finances to help you both settle into your new life.
Here are our 8 money tips for kicking off your marriage on the right foot:
With marriage comes shared expenses. Ideally you’ve had the money discussion prior to getting married, but if not, now’s a good time to start. To help, we’ve created a handy Combining Finances Guide that walks you through the important things to consider. The important thing to remember is that this is a very personal decision and each couple should choose a model that makes the most sense for them. I often hear couples say that they did it this way because their friends told them to or it’s how their parents did it. Well guess what: times have changed and you guys might have different opinions.
If you’re curious, you can check out stories of how other young couples made the decision on The Money Date podcast.
Irrespective of how you combine your finances, your decisions will impact your partner. The most successful couples sit down and pick a Spending Number — the amount of money they’re comfortable spending up to before they sync up about it. Fun fact, the average spending number for an American couple is $400. But in my own research, I’ve heard everything from $20 to $5,000. Once you’ve both picked a spending number, make a commitment to talk about purchases above that number before you make them.
Because you’re about to have many shared expenses, you’ll want to open a joint credit card or joint bank account account to track them all. You can swipe this card for your dinners out, travel, and even utilities. Making that shift from Venmo’ing each other money to a joint card is an exhilarating experience! Just make sure you sit down and talk about whether a debit card or credit card makes sense. I’m a huge fan of using a credit card (to build credit/collect points), but my husband and I agreed from the first day that we would only put on it what we were able to pay in full at the end of the month. If you don’t feel confident about going the credit route, use a debit card instead.
With shared spending, you’ll need an account to pay for those expenses. For couples who are combining their finances entirely, it might be easier to pool your money in an existing account. For couples who are only merging things partially, it feels good opening a brand-new account. Either way, make sure you have a checking AND savings account. The checking will help you manage your monthly cash flow and your savings will help you build up an emergency fund for when life throws you a curveball. You can then setup rules for transferring money into these accounts to cover expenses like rent, credit card bills, or anything else.
Many of the couples whom I’ve spoken to say that this step is the hardest. Opening up your bank balances (and sometimes your debt) can be a vulnerable experience. But the same couples also talk about how much better they felt once they laid it all on the table. Whatever approach you end up taking, build a comprehensive list of all your accounts, balances, and usernames/passwords (1password has worked well for us). In case of an emergency, your SO should have easy access to your money in case you need it. But remember, with such information comes great responsibility! Don’t snoop on your partner or move money around without your partner’s consent. Zeta allows you to easily do this for free on our platform.
Now that you’re married, you might want to update your partner as your new beneficiary. Remember, there are many types of accounts that have this option including retirement and brokerage accounts and any of your insurance (health, life, etc). You might choose to do this across all accounts or only for a few.
This might seem morbid but making a will is just good planning. You never know what might happen to you (we’ve all cried through Titanic). In case of a medical emergency or even death, you want to try to reduce the stress your family will invariably feel. Check out Freewill (free) or Trust&Will (paid but quick and guided) who both help you do this. You might even be surprised what you learn about your SO as you go through this process.
If you changed your name, you’ll want to fill out Form SS-5 to get a new social security card. You’ll want to update your name on your bank accounts as well. Not doing this could delay your tax refund, especially if your return doesn’t match the name Social Security has for your number.
From Jessica Bishop, founder of The Budget Savvy Bride
You and your partner become an official family unit when you tie the knot. While there are countless joyful aspects of that new union, it also brings up a few subjects that can be a bit on the somber side. What is love but a risk?
Losing a spouse can have some crippling financial consequences as well as obvious emotional ones. One way to ensure the security of the person left behind is by securing a life insurance policy. The good news is, the younger you are when you qualify, the better rate you’ll get for your term. Whether or not you intend to remain a dual-income household beyond the big day, making sure that each of you would be able to maintain your standard of living in the case of unforeseen circumstances is a solid way to take care of one another.
From Jessica Bishop, founder of The Budget Savvy Bride
You may think that meeting with a financial planner or money expert is something that only wealthy people need to do. If so, you better think again. Getting insight and advice from a certified professional financial planner can help get you on the right track from the get-go. No matter where you're starting off financially, an expert will help you set goals, run projections, and put financial systems and savings plans in place to help you reach them.
One of the best parts of long-term commitment is being able to work together as a team to make your dreams come true together. Whether the two of you dream of buying your first home together, expanding your family, or even retiring early, having the guidance of a professional can help you set realistic and attainable goals and put the proper strategies in place to make them a reality!
Article updated on July 28th, 2021.
In Zeta’s Money Date Magazine, finance blogger Savvy Girl Money dives into how her and her husband handled their finances together after they got married.READ MORE
Planning a wedding is a significant financial burden, and you’re probably curious how much you and your partner’s savings will be depleted after your wedding is over.READ MORE
A newsletter designed to help
you achieve relationship goals.
A newsletter designed to help you achieve relationship goals.
To safely consume this site, we recommend reading this disclaimer. Any outbound links will take you away from Zeta, to external sites in the world wide web. Just so you know, Zeta doesn’t endorse any linked websites nor do we pay/bribe anyone to appear on here. Any reference to prices on the site are just estimates; actual prices are up to specific merchants and their current desire to charge you for things. Also, nothing on this website should be construed as investment advice. We’re here to share our favorite tools, tactics and tips for managing your money together. This content is for your responsible consumption. Please don’t see this as a recommendation to buy specific investments or go on a crypto-binge. Lastly, we 100% believe that personal finance is exactly that, personal. We may sometimes publish content on this website that has been created by affiliated or unaffiliated partners such as employees, advisors or writers. Unless we explicitly say so, these post do not necessarily represent the actual views or opinions of Zeta.
The Zeta Joint Card and Joint Account is offered by Piermont Bank, Member FDIC. Zeta Help Inc. is a service provider of the issuing bank. All deposit accounts of the same ownership and/or vesting held at the issuing bank are combined and insured under an FDIC Certificate, up to $500,000. The Zeta Joint Debit Card, provided by MasterCard, may be used everywhere where MasterCard Debit Cards are accepted.