This post about planning a wedding on a budget first appeared on The Budget Savvy Bride, and is shared here on The Money Date to provide some helpful information to our Zeta couples who are planning weddings!
Choosing to plan a wedding is not for the faint of heart, and planning a wedding on a budget can feel extra challenging. Though the end goal of celebrating with your friends and family will be a focus the entire time, there are also plenty of decisions you will need to make in order for your goal to become a reality. One of the decisions you will make very early in your planning process is setting your wedding budget. Deciding how much you and your partner (and anyone else contributing financially toward your wedding day) are comfortable spending can be a challenge.
While some couples choose to spend thousands, there are many who opt to be more conservative with their wedding dollars. This choice is made for a complete litany of reasons. Some couples have their eyes on meeting a savings goal for travel, a home, or life in general. Other couples have simply never envisioned throwing a celebration with every bell and whistle. If you fall into any of the scenarios we mentioned (or perhaps one we haven’t!), we thought we would share painful truths (and plenty of positives!) about hosting a soiree for less. We’re here to celebrate your decision to plan and host a wedding on a budget, so keep reading below!
Whether a couple is planning a wedding on a seemingly never-ending budget fit for Kim Kardashian or choosing details for a celebration that has more financial confines surrounding it, there are truths. So, let’s dive into the “painful” truths of choosing to be mindful with your wedding money. Keep in mind: at the end of your wedding day, no matter how much you have spent, you will be married.
The saying “you can’t have it all” is definitely true when you’re planning a wedding on a budget. But, we think that’s okay! In order to keep your budget in check, you might choose a venue that wasn’t initially on your radar, and you might opt for a buffet or stations rather than plated meals. You might carefully design your own stationery or DIY your flowers. Your dress may be borrowed or preowned. Your playlist for the night might be one you craft yourself, or you might choose to work with a DJ instead of a multiple piece band. But, to us, none of those compromises will make your wedding any less beautiful or less fun. In fact, we think many of your favorite memories will be because of the compromises you make!
While the list of things you would love to have on your wedding day may be lengthy, we have a feeling if you switch gears and prioritize instead you will be just as happy. Think about choosing 3-5 details or services you think will enhance your experience and the experience of your guests. Then keep your eyes (and your budget!) trained on them. While your wedding might not have every bell and whistle, you likely can swing the things that matter most to you and your love.
While you’re piecing together your guest list, you might see and feel the number becoming smaller before your eyes. That’s okay! Throughout 2020, elopements, intimate, and micro weddings were trending, and they are definitely here to stay. The couples who celebrated with smaller guest counts loved their experience, and that has only influenced many other couples to plan their weddings with fewer people. Less guests means you will be able to interact with everyone, and you will also celebrate knowing you’re surrounded by an intimate group of family and friends who truly adore you and your partner.
People don’t only judge weddings that are planned on a budget. Instead, people judge weddings that are planned on any budget. Whether someone supports or likes your wedding day is irrelevant. The fact of the matter is your wedding is your day to enjoy with your love! The most important people who must like your wedding day are the two of you.
As you can likely tell, we think even the painful truths about planning a wedding on a budget can be turned into positives! Below, we’re shining a light on the true pluses that make spending less a real bonus.
There are things in our lives that require us to go into debt, and going into debt for a wedding is definitely not one of them. In fact, we highly suggest avoiding it altogether! When you choose to be mindful with your wedding money, you will avoid writing checks and paying credit card bills that make you uncomfortable. That is worth a celebration on its own!
With mindfulness comes freedom, so think about the other ways in which you can use your money that will benefit you more than a party. Maybe you imagine traveling, perhaps you want to pay down your student loans, or maybe you’re dreaming of buying a house or expanding your family – whatever you have in mind, knowing you can (or will!) is a great place to begin your marriage together.
Not seeing eye-to-eye on finances or starting your union under a mountain of debt will place strain on even the best relationships. While a wedding with perfect details might seem worth it in the moment, we can assure you starting your marriage off in a great place financially will set you up much better in the long run.
Like we mentioned above when we were chatting about the “painful” truths of planning a wedding on a budget, one of the biggest benefits is you will know you listened to your own intuition and let your values guide your decisions. While you might experience moments of wistfulness that you have to prioritize your wish list rather than saying yes to everything, you will get to enjoy your wedding day knowing the most important things to you are, in fact, on display. While friends and family might be in attendance, this is a day for you and your partner. Make sure it’s a day you’re proud to enjoy.
Looking to save on your big day? Hit your wedding budget goals with these top tips.READ MORE
Trust us, a wedding budget calculator, like a spreadsheet, is essential.READ MORE
A newsletter designed to help
you achieve relationship goals.
A newsletter designed to help you achieve relationship goals.
To safely consume this site, we recommend reading this disclaimer. Any outbound links will take you away from Zeta, to external sites in the world wide web. Just so you know, Zeta doesn’t endorse any linked websites nor do we pay/bribe anyone to appear on here. Any reference to prices on the site are just estimates; actual prices are up to specific merchants and their current desire to charge you for things. Also, nothing on this website should be construed as investment advice. We’re here to share our favorite tools, tactics and tips for managing your money together. This content is for your responsible consumption. Please don’t see this as a recommendation to buy specific investments or go on a crypto-binge. Lastly, we 100% believe that personal finance is exactly that, personal. We may sometimes publish content on this website that has been created by affiliated or unaffiliated partners such as employees, advisors or writers. Unless we explicitly say so, these post do not necessarily represent the actual views or opinions of Zeta.
The Zeta Joint Card and Joint Account is offered by Piermont Bank, Member FDIC. Zeta Help Inc. is a service provider of the issuing bank. All deposit accounts of the same ownership and/or vesting held at the issuing bank are combined and insured under an FDIC Certificate, up to $500,000. The Zeta Joint Debit Card, provided by MasterCard, may be used everywhere where MasterCard Debit Cards are accepted.